borderline personality disorder and abandonment
abandonment fears
separation, rejection
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Borderline Personality Disorder and Abandonment

DSM IV Borderline Personality Disorder & Abandonment

The first criteria in the DSM IV for a diagnosis for borderline personality disorder (emotional regulation disorder) is:

"frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5 "

Under "Diagnostic Features," the DSM IV says "The perception of impending separation or rejection, or the loss of external structure, can lead to profound changes in self-image, affect, cognition, and behavior. These individuals are very sensitive to environmental circumstances. They experience intense abandonment fears and inappropriate anger even when faced with a realistic time-limited separation or when there are unavoidable changes in plans (e.g., sudden despair in reaction to a clinician's announcing the end of the hour; panic or fury when someone important to them is just a few minutes late or must cancel an appointment). they may believe that this "abandonment" implies they are "bad." These abandonment fears are related to an intolerance of being alone and a need to have other people with them. Their frantic efforts to avoid abandonment may include impulsive actions such as self-mutilating or suicidal behaviors..."


Abandonment Stories

People with the BPD have written about their own abandonment issues: 

Feel free to send in yours in to be posted.

1) Ex- husband left 

2) Unable to Leave 

3) Suicidal Abandonment 

4) On & Off Again Relationship








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